We see the failures of others as brave. We see ours as shameful. Why?

Would you like to try something with me?

Take a blank sheet of paper, draw a line in the middle and think about the last time you saw someone fail. It might take a minute to remember. I got it? Now, on the left side of the article, write a few words describing how this failure made you think of this person.

Now, I want you to think about the last time you failed. I bet it will not take as long to remember. On the right side of the article, write down a few words describing how this failure made you think of yourself.

Finally, compare the two. If you’re like me, you probably have one or both of the following things.

1. When you tried to remember someone else’s failure, you could not. But when you thought of yours, you had a long list of memories.

2. The left side, where you considered this other person, had words like compassion, courage, and bravery. The right side had words like shame and stupidity.

Is not it interesting that when others fail, we tend to admire them for trying? Yet when we fail, we fight for the same thing. Not only that, but is it not also surprising how much we forgive and forget the mistakes of others and how long do we keep ours?

Are you cool with that? Because I am not.

Something has to change, and that’s not the part about how we forgive each other’s failures.

What if we just stretch out the same grace?

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